Putting Yourself First

I really like me. And I hope you really like you.

I’m going to share a story that I’ve shared before, and then I’m going to dive a little deeper.

I work part time as a bartender, which I absolutely love.

A few days before Christmas a lovely woman who is one of my regular customers commented on some of my jewelry. First, she noticed the chunky silver choker that I wear frequently and asked where it came from.

I explained that it was from Tiffany & Co and it’s one of my favorite pieces, which I’ve had for many years. 

Then she noticed the tiny infinity symbol that I wear around my neck and never ever take off. Because to me, the infinity symbol is a reminder that life is limitless. Our only true limitations are the ones we put on ourselves.

She once again asked where it came from and I told her the infinity symbol also came from Tiffany & Co.

“Wow,” she responded, “someone really likes you.”

To which I replied, “I really like me.”

I love buying gifts for myself. Especially when they are meaningful and symbolic.

Because where is it written that we have to wait for someone (presumably a significant other) to buy us something truly special?

Why can’t we just do it ourselves?

I’m not saying you need to go on a luxury shopping spree. That’s not the message here at all.

The message is to fall in love with yourself first. To treat yourself the way you deserve to be treated.

Not just with gifts. But with the way you talk to yourself. And take care of yourself.

Raising your standards starts from within. The way you treat yourself sends a powerful message to the universe.

Happy Healthy and Hot starts with happy for a reason. It’s about feeling so good on the inside that it shows on the outside.

So now let’s dive a little deeper.

Recently I heard Amanda Frances (love her!) say “Liking myself is a foundation that is unshakeable when people say crazy shit.”

Damn. That hit home. Because people do say crazy shit sometimes.

Once you truly love yourself, you can let that stuff roll off your back.

You no longer need to defend, or explain, or justify.

You just rise above it.